Is it an illusion?
Recently, in our Accountability Group, in our Talks and in other events, the phrase work-life balance has been coming up. I think it is coming up because as many of us are working from home, we are struggling to keep the divide between work and life. Even harder is that without open schools and open daycare, those that work from home are suddenly full-time parents and teachers while trying to work. Work-Life balance … what is that?
In the book “Who’s in your room” by Ivan Misner, Rick Sapio and Stewart Emery, they believe that balance is an illusion. Interesting given that balance was always a goal of mine when I worked a corporate job. I was always looking for this balance. A balance between my work life and my personal life. Now that I work for myself, I’m never looking for balance. Instead, I’m just looking for ways to enjoy life. So, maybe they are on to something. Maybe balance is an illusion.
What they said we should strive for is harmony. Harmony with your values and vision of who you are and who you want to be.
This was interesting to me… I mean as someone who was always after the elusive balance it never occurred to me that I had stopped looking for it. Now that I work for myself, I work a lot. But I usually don’t mind. It has taken me many years as an entrepreneur to understand that when I feel like I’ve lost time for myself, It is usually because I’ve said yes to too many things that are not part of my goals, not part of my big vision. Or I’m doing things that should be done by others or bring me no value. I then need to work to move these things back to where they belong (not with me).
The authors recommended taking the time to identify those things that make you feel alive, satisfied and fulfilled. Once identified, work towards saying yes to more of these people, places and things. Essentially, this is what I strive to do when I’m feeling overwhelmed; bring alignment to the activities I am doing. Align them to what I need to be doing to grow myself and my business and to what I love to do and move away from the things that I do not need to be doing at this time.
The book also gave some great advice on how to enjoy ourselves more:
One of the other things the book talked about is sometimes we may need to adjust our harmony. Sometimes, a big project, an important deadline or a certain circumstance will require you to devote more time to something you would normally. I agree. Sometimes, we need to really dial in and focus on something which may mean saying no to things we may enjoy. It’s all about looking at your goals and priorities. I think the key is to not keep the pendulum positioned really far to one side for too long. We need to evaluate and ensure we bring back into harmony.
We talk so much about creating work-life balance. But I think if you do the things you love, you don’t need to find balance. If your goal is to live in harmony with your values and vision, I think you will find that you are happy. It is when the alignment is not there, that you cannot find peace. When you don’t feel in alignment, evaluate what is causing it and adjust.
What do you think? Does work-life balance exist? Do you like the idea of striving for harmony instead?
“There is no such thing as work-life balance – it is all life. The balance has to be within you.”Sadhguru
“There is no such thing as work-life balance – it is all life. The balance has to be within you.”
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